Why Bother?

Is there really any point in people who've broken up in still being in touch? I mean, the only reason a couple didn't work out is because one of the two, or however were involved in the relationship, didn't want to be together. The only way they can really keep friendly is if one of them, preferably the one that was left and not the one that did the deed, still has feelings for the other one. This isn't really a friendship then, is it? That will never be the same person that you knew, of course it won't. That will be the shell of the person that you created, nothing more as far as you're concerned, sometimes less. You can't just quench feelings by somebody else's command. I know I've tried to tell people to not like me, and it doesn't work; some were so humiliated that they just avoided me, others just worked away at me skilfully and we'd either get together or I'd latch on to them that weekend. They'd get their hit, right? That's not what you want from an ex though, you don't want to end up like me and Rob. He left me and yet I didn't stop liking him, and every time we saw each other, you could see that things would never be the same. He's completely changed now, but by ripping out my heart at such a vulnerable time, things could never go back to normal, not with all the hard work I'd put in. So why keep in touch with them? Hello, it'll only give them hope and unless your reasons for leaving them in the first place weren't bulletproof (like when I left Ashmlee Willie Winkie for being too mature for my Year Seven self, or for not having enough communication skills to deal with my Year Ten self), then there's no chance of their hopes ever being made reality. So it's really to give yourself emotional cushioning really, not to help them. You can't bear to lose them, but you should've considered that at the beginning. That's the disadvantage of every relationship - if it doesn't work out, your whole relationship could go bust. That's why music is so important, it doesn't leave you and it'll always take you back with open arms, it'll always take the new you back more importantly. Why should humans be this forgiving though? Why put someone's feelings above your own when they've hurt you so badly? It's quite ridiculous really. A load of drama for nothing.